I love my friends. Fiercely. As I have gotten older (I feel like I start many conversations with that line!), I have truly seen the light when it comes to the value and importance of maintaining friendships. During my younger days, friends seemed to flow in and out of my life without much effort or worry on my part. I always had friends (not a humblebrag)—it just seemed like opportunities to meet friends were always there whether it was through high school, college or work. It was also before the days of social media and phones where we were forced to socialize and interact with one another. Over the course of my life, I have had many, many friends come and many, many friends go. The number of my inner circle is extremely small now but they are the best of the best. I always hope and stay open to meeting new friends (I will never shut the door on that), however, I do accept that as with many things in life, less is more. At this stage, I have been friends with all of them for at least 10 years, one of them for 20 years!
Let me tell you about my beautiful tribe of women. They are in no uncertain terms: bright, fierce, vulnerable, loving, tough, kind, open, unafraid, compassionate, sensitive, empathetic, determined, independent, hardworking, funny, understanding, nonjudgmental, warm and interesting. They make me feel safe to be vulnerable, heard, understood, empowered and less alone. They right my sails when I am shaky and unsure of my path. They don’t judge me for how I live or my life choices. I feel valuable and worthy as a woman and as a person. I can tell them anything and I know they get it. I take none of this for granted-ever.
My wish for writing this is that my friends know how MUCH I value them. I make efforts to tell them that when I see them or on birthdays. At the risk of being too much, I want it to be crystal clear: I see them, honor them and I cherish them deeply. Only another women gets it sometimes. We need to continue to support one another and wish great things for each other. Even women I am not friends with or friendly with—even women I have had a prickly relationship with or don’t on the surface have much in common with—I still want good things for them. When one wins, we all win.